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Monday, June 21, 2010
Charlie as a Daddy
Yesterday we gathered to celebrate Daddy's Day. Charlie was touched with the gifts (including Beatles glasses I'll get to handwash!). He is the kind of guy who takes in these expressions of love with an appreciation not necessarily obvious to others. But I get to hear firsthand the joy it brings him. He is so immensely proud of his precious girls and the families they now enjoy. Even tho' we thought I was pregnant with a boy both times, he never even had a thought of disappointment over being the patriarch in a family of females. Hence, the pink. Another thing that we love about our family is the laughter and creative humor that bubbles out when we're together. This is how it has been for us since way back when we were just dating. We started out laughing a lot and now live with the understanding that the saying "live, love, laugh" is the path to thriving as a family. That, and our connection to Jesus, has served us well. How I love this man who loves his family so deeply.
Don't believe the lie: "He'll/she'll never change"
Slow dance with no music once in awhile, resting in each other's arms for a few moments
Listen to your spouse well enough that you can ask them an appropriate question about what they're saying, even if the subject doesn't interest you that much.
Ladies, let him have butter on his popcorn and buy your own plain. Or do as the Lesters and share a lightly buttered large. This is about respecting adult choices.
Avoid telling your spouse how they are feeling - e.g. why are you so angry? Or, even worse, just DON'T communicate the expectation that they need to be acting happy all the time. The innocent question "what's wrong?" posed repeatedly gives the strong message that you are only okay with them having a happy face. So guess what? They'll accommodate and stuff what is really going on. Your marriage needs to be a sanctuary of realness.
There are times when we need to "Put on a happy face" for the sake of our spouse's need to believe that their struggling isn't zapping our joy. Men are "what we see is what counts", while women are apt to think the answer is to talk through the emotions to really figure out what is going on. See the dilemma while living in the moment?
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