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The greatest of these is love . . .
This blog is dedicated to the joy of family
Beginning with Chuck and Deli who officially became a family November 23, 1968
Beginning with Chuck and Deli who officially became a family November 23, 1968
Delite's Other Blogs
Marital Wisdom for the Day
Don't believe the lie: "He'll/she'll never change"
Slow dance with no music once in awhile, resting in each other's arms for a few moments
Listen to your spouse well enough that you can ask them an appropriate question about what they're saying, even if the subject doesn't interest you that much.
Ladies, let him have butter on his popcorn and buy your own plain. Or do as the Lesters and share a lightly buttered large. This is about respecting adult choices.
Avoid telling your spouse how they are feeling - e.g. why are you so angry? Or, even worse, just DON'T communicate the expectation that they need to be acting happy all the time. The innocent question "what's wrong?" posed repeatedly gives the strong message that you are only okay with them having a happy face. So guess what? They'll accommodate and stuff what is really going on. Your marriage needs to be a sanctuary of realness.
Slow dance with no music once in awhile, resting in each other's arms for a few moments
Listen to your spouse well enough that you can ask them an appropriate question about what they're saying, even if the subject doesn't interest you that much.
Ladies, let him have butter on his popcorn and buy your own plain. Or do as the Lesters and share a lightly buttered large. This is about respecting adult choices.
Avoid telling your spouse how they are feeling - e.g. why are you so angry? Or, even worse, just DON'T communicate the expectation that they need to be acting happy all the time. The innocent question "what's wrong?" posed repeatedly gives the strong message that you are only okay with them having a happy face. So guess what? They'll accommodate and stuff what is really going on. Your marriage needs to be a sanctuary of realness.
There are times when we need to "Put on a happy face" for the sake of our spouse's need to believe that their struggling isn't zapping our joy. Men are "what we see is what counts", while women are apt to think the answer is to talk through the emotions to really figure out what is going on. See the dilemma while living in the moment?
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